If my dating life in my 20’s had a soundtrack it would have been “Da Ya Think I’m Sexy?” by Rod Stewart. Big, bold, and brassy with confidence oozing all over the place.
In my 30’s it would have updated to LMFAO’s “Sexy and I know it”. Smug, with a sly smirk.
And yet, as the years drift by and I launch into my 4th decade…the music has changed.
Nowadays it more likely to be Queen and David Bowie’s mournful “Under Pressure”.
With The Travelling Wilburys’ “Handle me with Care” playing quietly in the background.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m a confident lad. I back myself. Hell, I even like what I see in the mirror (except for the hairline – that’s a crime against humanity).
But…I’m feeling under pressure, you know?
Sure the pressure from the date is one thing – dressing up, stepping up, putting yourself on the line.
But I find the real pressure is actually ‘around’ the date.
Family members at Christmas lunch gingerly asking “So, are you seeing anyone at the moment?”. Being unofficially known as “the unmarried one”. Realising that not only are you the only cousin without kids, but your dating life is now a fascinating live soap opera and the topic of numerous lively conversations. Doesn’t help when you overhear Aunt Martha blurting out “Why doesn’t he just pick one?”.
Settle down Martha…remember, we get to choose which retirement home we’ll stick you in!
I totally get how people can avoid dating all together. Just tap out of the game and replace it with long work hours, friends, computer games or alcohol.
But what if the solution isn’t to avoid the pressure but to embrace it?
Instead of running away from the intensity…lean into it?
It’s probably crazy but maybe what you need when you’re under pressure is…more pressure! As the philosopher once said “No pressure, No diamonds”.
So…in that spirit, our next dating adventure is going to put you under some real pressure. We’re heading into The Rocks and doing an Escape room! Yep, that craze from Europe has headed to Australia and we’re diving headlong into it.
No safe dating for us. We’re going to mix dating, alcohol, and a bit of claustrophobia and see what happens.
I mean, it worked for Keanu Reeves and Sandra Bullock in “Speed”.